Failure

Posted on September 8, 2020 by maxedoutmuscles

A lot of challenges come at you in life, and then so does failure. Failure isn’t new to me. It’s a constant occurrence in my life. It’s a constant reminder that I have so much farther to go if I want to be where I want to be. I make excuses, I say “I’ll do better tomorrow”, and I consistently see myself failing. I am beginning to see it as a lesson revolving around one singular point. This lesson has impacted my entire life and it’s only through experiences and therapy that I’ve begun to understand this lesson and move forward.

Don’t be a fence rider. Let all your decisions lead to a yes or no. Don’t live your life procrastinating. Jump off the fence and start running. If you sit too long, you’ll just grow old without going anywhere.

That is honestly what I’ve learned. I know that I constantly struggle to get things done. I’ve really advanced in work, and done well there, but I’ve struggled to build meaningful personal relationships and I’ve gained an awful lot of fat. Living this way is not healthy, it’s not happy, and it isn’t good for us spiritually.

For a while now, that metaphorical fence has been a lot of things for me. It’s been:

Is God real? I constantly change my mind or try not to think about it. I always feel like I haven’t made my decision. I know Jesus said you can’t serve two masters, but I sure have been riding that fence for years.
Should I really eat that? I know I need more restraint. I need to have discipline. I always say “I’m going to get healthy and lose a bunch of weight,” and then I do the opposite. Sometimes I even think “if I just exercise a lot more, I could eat what I want and lose weight,” and I know that’s not true. If I’d get off the fence and dedicate myself to a good diet, I know I’d see results.
Do I believe in myself? This one’s a little more complicated. I say I believe in myself, and I exert confidence at times, but here I am single and just coming out of my shell after four years of focusing on my career. I know that, during those four years, I’d tell myself all the time that I was going to put in the work to keep my relationships going strong but I really didn’t. I just rode the fence long enough to alienate myself from all my childhood friends and never made new friends.

So now I rise to the challenge. I’ve heard it said before that half a battle is knowing what your fighting against, so I can hope that knowing my struggles will only catapult me to success. See you next post.

Saraswati Says Put Your Heart Into Your Work

Posted on November 7, 2015 by maxedoutmuscles

“Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.”

Above is a great quote I found by renowned and deceased Hindu teacher Sivananda Saraswati. This rung so true to me as I thought about the past few months, and what I’ve noticed.

While I can’t say anything from long term experience, I can say that in these past few months that I’ve been working harder at everything I’ve been involved in! And I’ve honestly felt more successful! As I said in another recent post(click here to read “Climb To The Top And Do Not Look Back Down”) I haven’t fully defined myself as successful, but I am much better off than I was six months ago!

..and you can be too!

I’ve had real conversations with you guys about my own struggles with complacency and how I didn’t enjoy certain parts of my life, but I kept pushing(click here to read “The Key To Climbing To The Top And Why You Should Do It Today”). Since I’ve had my ups and downs, I know that I’ve grown a lot and I am maturing. I know that I will be successful!

..and I know that I’m already very close.

I’m getting so much healthier, stronger, and leaner as I continue to go all out in the gym. I continue to learn more about nutrition. I’ve learned a lot about blogging, creating content, writing, distributing, and networking. I’ve also learned some humility from working a job I didn’t like, along with patience.

..and I don’t tell you these things to brag! I tell you this because the only way I can explain these thoughts of mine is through my experiences. So I say to you today..

..go for what you want and pursue your passion! Work hard! As Saraswati says “put your heart, mind, and soul into your work”, and all you lifters work hard so you can have maxed out muscles!

Forget Motivation And Develop Discipline

Posted on October 31, 2015 by maxedoutmuscles

Motivation – (noun) the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.

While motivation is great, it can often be fleeting. You may be willing to do something one day, and not want to on another day. Motivation is simply wanting to do it! For a little while you’re driven, and if you have no discipline you crash and burn.

Discipline – (noun) the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.

Discipline is doing something whether you want to or not. It’s sticking to a set plan, or something you said you’d do, whether you’re still motivated or not. This is self-discipline. You don’t have to punish yourself if you don’t finish things, but you know that self-discipline is important if you want to have the habit of getting things done.

In the video above, Elliott Hulse talks about his timeline for success. He explains how he worked fruitlessly for five years on creating his youtube channel before he ever got the viewership he has now. It goes to show how you have to stay dedicated, even when things don’t seem like they’re paying off. Even when you have doubts. Even when you don’t know if you really feel like it.

Often times, I think to myself

“What would I gain if I quit working out right now?”

“What would I gain if I quit working on Maxed Out Muscles?”

The answer is nothing. There is nothing to gain from quitting. If I continue working hard I can assume that maybe someday I’ll be successful. I can also assume that I’ll become a different person as I’m working hard to become the person I need to be in order to succeed.

My questions today are

Have you personally felt like giving up?

Whether it be on your fitness regime or something you’re passionate about?

Have you ever been highly motivated to do something and then wavered?

What do you think of today’s post? Do you agree that discipline is extremely important?

Please let me know in the comments down below. I want read your opinions.

Climb To The Top And Do NOT Look Back Down

Posted on October 24, 2015 by maxedoutmuscles

For a while I have talked about being successful. To clarify, I don’t find myself as successful yet!

..and most people don’t! But what is “success”? According to Google, it’s the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. That means that success is extremely subjective and only you can determine whether you are successful.

Keep in mind that to achieve your goals you will have to work very hard. And, recently, I’ve come to the conclusion that hard work is important regardless of what you choose to do. To be the best you have to work hard.

Here’s a quote by Kevin Hart:

“Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to do the work. I live by that. You grind hard so you can play hard. At the end of the day, you put all the work in, and eventually it’ll pay off. It could be in a year, it could be in 30 years. Eventually, your hard work will pay off.”

Read more quotes at Brainyquote.

So have the mentality that you will be the hardest worker to be the best at accomplishing your goals! If the journey to success is like climbing a mountain,

then don’t let the people and things at the bottom keep you from reaching the top.

You can do this.

The Key To Climbing to the Top and Why YOU Should Do It Today

Posted on September 25, 2015 by maxedoutmuscles

I always try to make posts that I hope can help my viewers and subscribers, and so I usually try to leave the point of focus off of myself. The problems or help guides that I post may be something I found useful for me, but I write it out to you.

The truth is, I write a lot of things out to you that I wish I had known a long time ago. There’s always so many things I wish I had known two years ago or three years ago and the only thing I can do now is pass what I know down to people who are high school age, or any age really. If I can be anything, I can try to be like a big brother.

And so today I want to tell you what has been on my mind. I want to tell you what I did today and what really has me thinking about life and success. Again, I’m doing this because I want to motivate you.

~~Work~~

I went into work today and, as usual, I wasn’t really happy. It’s not that my job is very hard and it is not like anyone treats me bad there either, but today has been extremely different. While I’m thankful for the job, I realized that it’s a stepping stone for me. I need the job at the moment because I have debt to pay. My plan is to go back to school for nutrition and be well on my way to success(for those of you who don’t know, my name is Christian Boyles, and I have a lot to say to you about my battle with Crohn’s and how I want to help people with nutrition, click here or here).

As I said, I walked into work today and immediately I felt depressed. In that moment, it is just draining to think that I want to help people with nutrition and training, but I’m at a Walmart stocking soda. Again, I’m thankful for the job I have but I know I am meant to do much more.

“…I am meant to do much more.”

So I got off work, got home, and began to think. Honestly, I was still depressed. It was almost like I was in kind of a funk, but then I realized that there are things in life that you have control over and there are things in life that you don’t. And I know one thing for sure! I can’t help it that I grew up without a lot of money to help me with an easier transition through college. I can’t help it that all of that happened and it led me to where I’m at today. But there is something I can do.

I can acknowledge that I am far better off than I was a year ago, and I am moving in a much more positive direction.

I have to credit my current success to three things:

Incredible People in my Life – If it weren’t for my great-grandmother who raised me, I wouldn’t be who I am today. If it wasn’t for my mom giving me tough times, I wouldn’t be who I am today. It was the challenges that my mother presented in my youth and the love that my great-grandmother gave me that ultimately molded who I am today. And it’s not like everything going on in my life is a direct result of two people. It seems that there are always people who come and go, but they are like shooting stars. You see them for a moment and it’s a beautiful site, like looking up at that night sky, because they can really do something positive in your life that can really impact who you will become.
My Personality – This is 100% the most conceited thing I have to say. However, if I wasn’t as nice to people then I know they wouldn’t have been so nice to me. I have always tried to be good to people, and it has always worked out well for me. I try to give my best to those around me and it always seems that I attract people that are kind and want nothing more than to see me succeed.
I Found my Passion after Bad Things Happened – As I mentioned in some of the hyperlinks above, I have Crohn’s disease. This disease has always been a challenge for me. It has made me so sick that I’ve thought I was dying at times and I have definitely had my fair share of spiritual experiences. I have asked questions like “Why me?” I have thought about my life and re-evaluated multiple times. It wasn’t until the last time that I got sick that I said “Enough is ENOUGH!” I knew right away that this time would be different. I knew that if there’s a God or some rule to our universe, that He or It was leading me to confront my problems and make something positive of it. At least that is how I chose to view the situation. I finally decided that I am passionate about health and wellness, and living the best life possible. I decided that I would begin writing this blog and reaching out in an effort to reach as many people as I can.

And of course, this morning, I realized that today is the day. I realized that today is always the day to do your absolute best. There is never a better day than today. You don’t have to wait until tomorrow, and you don’t have to take time to plan things. If there is something you love, and if there is something positive that you have to give the world…….then go out and do it.

So that is why, today, I have written this long post. I’ve written this in hopes to inspire, and also because this was needed. I try to give you content everyday, but today was the day for something special. And every day should be..

How Successful People Think (vs. How Unsuccessful People Think)

Posted on September 5, 2015 by maxedoutmuscles

This is a video I found while browsing youtube earlier and I think that it could be incredibly motivating for you. The moral of the story that this guy is projecting is right in line with what I am trying to convey to you through this blog. I hope it is of some service to you and that you have a great day. Enjoy the video.